PLEASE DO NOT FORGIVE

Forgiveness is not a tool in our ten stage

recovery process, but is a consequence of it. If we attempt to forgive before we have exhumed and felt and grieved and healed the damages done to us we only engage in the delusion of a temporary, premature forgiveness that can so easily be undone when unresolved traumas erupt once again, which they invariably do. When we grieve we reconnect with the best of ourselves and with our pure life force spontaneously forgiving. And then our forgiveness is true, deep, pure, and permanent.