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PLEASE DO NOT FORGIVE
Forgiveness is not a tool in our ten stage
The solutions to our ten stage recovery are all within us, if we take care to look for them. | www.thetenstages.com
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The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives. www.thetenstages.com
12 Stage Working Document
Stage 1: We admit that the traumas buried in our unconscious rule our lives, makes us powerless to embody the truth, and drives us to act out in ways destructive to ourselves, to others.
Stage 2: We come to believe that the child within at our core is more powerful than the lies imposed upon us, and that this truth can lead us to our recovery.
Stage 3: We make a decision to align with the child within, despite the pressure to submit to the distortions of family, society, and the historical voices we carry within.
Stage 4: We make a searching and fearless assessment of our traumatic history: personal, familial and ancestral.
Stage 5: We admit to ourselves and to a stages guide the full details of our traumas.Identifying the triggers to our dissociations.
Stage 6: We become entirely ready to grieve this past and to let go of our false self.
Stage 7: We align with our child within and do the deep and transforming work of grieving.
Stage 8: We study the ways we have hurt ourselves, others through replication of our traumas, and we become willing to make amends to them all.
Stage 9: We change our inappropriate dissociated behaviour.
Stage 10: We continue to monitor our attitudes and behaviour, and when we make a mistake we promptly admit it, trace its traumatic origin, and take steps to not repeat it.
Stage 11: We seek through self-reflection an ever deepening connection to our child within, desiring only to be guided to our intuitive voice.
Stage 12: Having awakened to our child within, we dedicate our lives to its full manifestation and to nurturing the healing paths of ourselves and others.
Maggots in the Brain:We need Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings
You see – our child within doesn't need any personal growth work.
our child within doesn't need therapy. our child within doesn't need yoga, green juice or an alkaline, gluten free diet – our body does.
Fear is not the opposite of Love.
Fear is a biological response to uncertainty that comes from the amygdala that causes our body to be filled with cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline.
We can spend so much time trying to hang out in the “spiritual realm” that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our human emotion.
We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”
The only thing unspiritual is the judgment of our feelings, which is actually keeping us blocked from happiness.
de-pression comes from re-pression.
If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside the child within without judgment – we can never really change.
We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long in our child within.
What feelings are you afraid to feel?
What feelings do you try to escape?
What feelings are you holding back because you think you are a bad person if you feel them?
You see – these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves.
This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”
We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is a recovery bypass and it’s as deadly as a blocked artery.
What feelings can you feel today?
our child within doesn't need therapy. our child within doesn't need yoga, green juice or an alkaline, gluten free diet – our body does.
Fear is not the opposite of Love.
Fear is a biological response to uncertainty that comes from the amygdala that causes our body to be filled with cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline.
We can spend so much time trying to hang out in the “spiritual realm” that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our human emotion.
We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”
The only thing unspiritual is the judgment of our feelings, which is actually keeping us blocked from happiness.
de-pression comes from re-pression.
If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside the child within without judgment – we can never really change.
We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long in our child within.
What feelings are you afraid to feel?
What feelings do you try to escape?
What feelings are you holding back because you think you are a bad person if you feel them?
You see – these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves.
This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”
We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is a recovery bypass and it’s as deadly as a blocked artery.
What feelings can you feel today?
Admitting that the traumas buried in our childhood unconscious rule our lives
Maggot in the Brain:Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth)
People who are dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because they have abandoned their healing process and numbed their pain. Awakening grows from the fertilised soil of suffering.
People who are dissociated call themselves enlightened. But this is only because they have they have no conception of what awakening is. Awakening is the polar opposite of dissociation.
People who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because there lies a thick wall buffering their hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. The enlightened are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-love that they can defend themselves gently.
People who are dissociated feel they have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because they completely deny the harm done to them – and the damage remaining. The enlightened forgive spontaneously and without effort because they have fully embraced their damaged parts and grieved every honest ounce of their misery.
People who are dissociated are extremely self-confident. But this is only because their self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of awakening is fed by the universal spring of life.
People who are dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because they are experts at leading themselves away from their heart’s true course. The enlightened person leads right to the heart of the matter.
People who are dissociated have gone through hell to get to where they’re at. But they fail to realise that they’re still stuck right in hell. Enlightenment is the freedom of emotional integration.
People who are dissociated feel they have found their true self. But this is only because they equate their true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Awakening is the true self linked with the conscious mind.
People who are dissociated consider themselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because their spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that they have no conception of what spirit is. Awakening is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.
People who are dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because they perennially risk returning to suffering if they do not convince everyone of their lie. Awakened to the Ten Stages brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.
People who are dissociated act decisively. But this is only because they cannot see or question their unconscious motivation. The enlightened person is also decisive, but only because he has no unconscious, because in his healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, has dissolved.
Dissociation is contrary to our awakening. Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.
As we attempt to move forward on our path toward full recovery, different parts of ourselves live at different stages of healing Recovery on our journey.
The first primitive stage on the courses healing journey is the contest. This is the stage of grandiosity, acceptance by the norm, dissociated happiness, and approval by the group. The parts of us that are winning the contest, getting our hidden agendas met stop our course before it has even begun. Here we deny our deepest traumas so intensely that we fool even ourselves into believing they never happened – and that we are already healed. It is for this reason that dissociation mimics our recovery. Here we idealize the parents, which allows us full unconscious liberty to replicate the worst of our past in our present. Here we do not look beneath our surface, and if fate goes our way, we will never have to. We remain happily distant from the misery lurking in our guts.
Yet where parts of us lose the contest we evolve into the second stage: suffering. This is the stage of depression, failure, misery, and inertia. Here we wallow in seemingly purposeless pain. The silver lining around our cloud of parental idealization has been stripped away, but the cloud remains intact. We still wish to be rescued by our parents and their replicated stand-ins, but we lack the requisite pain tolerance to be able to acknowledge the impossibility of this. Here we live in tortured ambivalence, and we spend out hours and days trying to get others to love us in the way our parents never could. Part of us wishes to devolve back into the seeming pleasure of grandiosity, but the healthier part recalls how cruelly that route already failed us.
Those parts of us with the capacity to face our terrors enter the third stage: grieving. This is the stage of purposeful struggling. Here we unearth the truth of our past, which allows the eruption of the stinking cesspool of our buried traumas. Here we witness the horror lurking behind idealization of the parents and we work to disassemble their lies. Our honest confidence leads us into the face of the hurricane, because our soul and its allies tell us that blue skies lie on the other side. Here we are humble, here we confront the truth of the worst of our parents, either in interaction with them or through whatever means will best help us integrate the truth, and through this our journey rages forward.
With each demon we conquer we take a further step into the fourth stage: enlightenment. This is the stage of emotional integration, psychic balance, and inner peace. Here lie the deepest goals of mankind. All want to know truth, and the enlightened person achieves it – in all parts of himself that arrive in the final stage. Here we grow able to distinguish light from shadow and water from mirage. Here we nurture the evolution of our primitive sides instead of expressing them destructively. Here we devote the best of ourselves to healing. Here we no longer traumatise others in the very patterns in which we were traumatised, but instead replicate the best of ourselves – and generate beauty in the world around us. Here, having healed our wounds, we share freely of our gifts, because now our gifts are accessible.
Self-absorption is far less common in eastern cultures where the focus is on the community.
Recovered Stagers have a natural instinct to make healthy decisions
The Ten Stages Study Course is perhaps the greatest human exploration and adventure about rebuilding autonomous self worth ever constructed.
Stagers who have healed their violated child within into maturity can approach conflict and an enemy in a nonreactive way
We need Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings and recognising our child trapped within.
We need Recovery bypass surgery when our fear blocks us from feeling our feelings and recognising our child trapped within.
You see – our child within doesn’t need any personal growth work.
our child within doesn’t need therapy. our child within doesn’t need yoga, green juice or an alkaline, gluten free diet – our body does.
Fear is not the opposite of Love.
Fear is a biological response to uncertainty that comes from the amygdala that causes our body to be filled with cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline.
We can spend so much time trying to hang out in the “spiritual realm” that we don’t allow ourselves to feel the fullness of our human emotion.
We tend to carry so much shame with us when it comes to feeling our feelings because we believe that feeling our fear or negativity are “unspiritual.”
The only thing unspiritual is the judgment of our feelings, which is actually keeping us blocked from happiness.
de-pression comes from re-pression.
If we don’t allow ourselves to feel and be honest about what’s inside the child within without judgment – we can never really change.
We can change our clothes, we can change our diet and we can start to move our body, but none of that will do any good without going into the depths of the feelings we have suppressed for so long in our child within.
What feelings are you afraid to feel?
What feelings do you try to escape?
What feelings are you holding back because you think you are a bad person if you feel them?
You see – these places are the places we need to go if we are to liberate ourselves.
This is what Carl Jung meant when he said, “Enlightenment is not imaging figures of light, but making the dark conscious.”
We can’t make our child within conscious if we are too self-judgmental to allow it to come forward – this is a recovery bypass and it’s as deadly as a blocked artery.
What feelings can you feel today?
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